Self Love. It seems to be a hot topic right now. Everywhere we turn, people are commenting on loving yourself more… practicing self love… making sure you are taking good care of you. But despite the topic’s frequency in normal daily conversation, how many of us can honestly say that we know what “self love” really is? How many of us can say that we do a good job of practicing it? And, is this something we should really care about?
I feel like there’s not straight-forward, by-the-book definition or way to explain “self love.” We all feel love, and show ourselves love in so many different ways… it’s bound to mean something different for each person. But, that doesn’t help us to understand what the heck it is, and whether or not it should be important.
So let me ask you this: what do you do when you feel the most stressed, when your body feels weighed down, and you start having self-deprecating thoughts? It happens to all of us. We all lead busy lives. We all experience stress. We all sometimes have a hard time handling it all. And we live in a society where we don’t acknowledge weakness, we don’t discuss our feelings unless they are happy ones, so often we don’t do a good job of coping with the things causing us the stress, exhaustion and what’s leading us to be so hard on ourselves.
Self-love. What does that mean? Are we talking bubble baths, spa days, and cucumber masks? Sure. But there is so much more to self-love than pampering ourselves. Is it taking vitamins and eating healthy and getting in our workouts?
Self-love is a not a destination; it’s a practice. Self-love is the foundation on which we build a happy life. Without self-love, we have nowhere to put the love or abundance that comes to us. Sounds pretty important, doesn’t it? So maybe we should be paying more attention to loving ourselves.
OK, we get it… this definitely seems like it makes sense, and should be something that we acknowledge and pay attention to on the regular. How does one “practice self-love?” Because I’m learning right along side you, I turned for answers to a favorite blog of mine: MindBodyGreen. Jackpot. I found the greatest article by Nitika Chopra, a certified life coach, wellness entrepreneur, go-to resource for young women around the globe, and a motivational lifestyle guru. Nitika is on a mission to inspire radical self-love. She is also the host of the talk show Naturally Beautiful on Z Living which focuses on a holistic approach to beauty from the inside out. Nitika is a passionate, colorful, and inspirational voice supporting people in their journey to access more self-love by creating a lifestyle reflective of it. This woman sounds like an expert on topics suck as self-love. And I love what she wrote.
Nitika gives us a list of wants to being practicing self-love, and a few of them really jumped out as great little reminders that I think apply to all of us. Like, Build A Precious Community. Perhaps this one is specifically geared towards us females, because I don’t know a single woman who shouldn’t be a super hero… but, she reminds us that as much as we think we can, we can’t do everything ourselves. “You need the support and love from people around you to stay motivated and on track. Positive energy is contagious, so whether you’re building a network or planning to go to a fun event, it’s always important to have a community you value around you regularly.” Be honest with yourself. Do you need this reminder?
Another point Nitika makes in her article is No more comparisons. We are living in a digital age, where we have windows into everyone’s lives thanks to social media. While it’s fun to see what our long-lost friends are up to these days, and social media makes it so much easier to keep in contact with family scattered all over, it is also really easy to look at other peoples lives and start comparing it to your own. One must remember that everyone has bad days. But most don’t post that on their Facebook.
Seriously, you guys… Nitika Chopra has some great, easy ways to start practicing self-love in her article. Is is possible to have too much love? I’m thinking no… do yourself a favor, and spend a few minutes learning about self love… read her entire list of 10 Wonderful Ways To Practice Self-Love.